tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5606734429657625929.post3147676696137670427..comments2024-02-06T14:09:50.207+11:00Comments on .:Too Much, Not Enough:.: Pep TalkBellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07544398450025713725noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5606734429657625929.post-91823072398893222312016-06-26T10:50:59.569+10:002016-06-26T10:50:59.569+10:00There are a bunch of Buddhist mantras I like that ...There are a bunch of Buddhist mantras I like that sound really dark but are actually really good. One of them is "abandon hope." And it works for me because it takes me out my storylines of all the what ifs. It brings me back to now. Everything doesn't feel so catastrophic. Abandon Hope doesn't mean roll over and die. It means not tying yourself to the anticipated outcomes. lilulakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07590025569327233215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5606734429657625929.post-90200367215107217802016-06-09T12:48:55.178+10:002016-06-09T12:48:55.178+10:00Hi Bella! :) I'm sorry you've felt so bad...Hi Bella! :) I'm sorry you've felt so bad. I used to give the negative pep talk to myself when running track and cross country in high school. I would list all the reasons why I wasn't going to race well and I would tell them to my friends and the coach if they asked how I felt about the race. I think I needed to take the pressure off. I didn't want anyone (including myself) to expect too much out of me. I also did a lot better in the races if I started in the back of the pack where it looked like I didn't have a chance, and then I'd slowly work my way toward the front. If I started out front, the pressure to keep it up made me run too fast and use up all my energy too early. I've heard that for OCD sometimes it works to follow a fear out to the conclusion (Like, "Oh no, what if I didn't really turn off the stove. I'd better check for the eighth time," is answered with "Ok, Maybe I didn't turn off the stove. Maybe it will get so hot the house will burn down. The house is going to burn down. I guess I won't have a house to come home too. I'll have to rely on the kindness of friends to house me for the next couple months. Eventually I will get back on my feet I suppose.") It's supposed to be like the DBT skill "Radical Acceptance" I think?Lydihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05542134628947849898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5606734429657625929.post-90537001572744420832016-06-05T03:42:17.804+10:002016-06-05T03:42:17.804+10:00My many down mantras do help me from having a pani...My many down mantras do help me from having a panic attack when going outside. The most common one right now, "don't look at me, just pass me by, don't laugh, don't whisper," on and on and on, keeps me somehow calm, in the swirling panic that I always feel when meeting people on the sidewalk or in the store or in the elevator. I never thought about that before.cursum perficiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02351518808160464146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5606734429657625929.post-84892546786993465202016-06-04T06:13:02.381+10:002016-06-04T06:13:02.381+10:00I definitely do the fatfatuglyfatstupidsuckystupid...I definitely do the fatfatuglyfatstupidsuckystupidworthlesspieceofshit thing as well! I've never thought about why I do it though. Even when I know I'm going to do well on something I still think it won't be good enough--<br /><br />PS - I eat 2 packs (4 bars) of the oats n honey bars every day! They're yummy!Nasimiyuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18244051309352578806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5606734429657625929.post-9829667782208601032016-06-01T21:44:21.929+10:002016-06-01T21:44:21.929+10:00i don't particularly /do/ negative mantras now...i don't particularly /do/ negative mantras now. it's mostly a "don't expect nothing because if you expect something you'd be deeply disappointed." and even with expecting nothing, i'm either not surprised at all or beyond discombobulated at what's just happened! as time goes on and the more i recover, the less i care and if i do put myself down, it's usually a "i know this'll go away tomorrow and i'll feel different about it then so don't do anything stupid, alright? if you still want to do something stupid, wait til tomorrow." 90% of the time, i feel better the next day.<br /><br />but that's the thing is, isn't it? you ARE enough. maybe not in your point of view, but at least in someone else's. always in mine. always enough. and i do agree with Eve. if you wouldn't say it to someone else, why say it to yourself? remember there's one of those quotes... which one is it? let me find it. this: http://michellekpoems.tumblr.com/post/58471507322/and-if-your-daughter-came-to-you-crying-with<br /><br />i'm not sure if i've posted it to you and maybe i have, but you've gotten the gist of it. you telling yourself you're not enough (to me) is like Ron telling himself he's no good at chess.<br /><br />oh God, we'd always had a box of these in the cupboard when i was growing up. i remember my sister she used to absolutely loathe the Oats and Honey one, so she'd always leave it in the box for me. <br /><br />what's your favourite flavour? <br /><br />SEND CAT.<br /><br /><br /><br />hope i've not offended you in any way, my love. i always try to say things with best intention and aye, better safe than sorry!<br /><br /><br />love you to the moon and back,<br />-Sam LupinSam Lupinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12704442793403106405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5606734429657625929.post-8221238009903869722016-06-01T19:40:39.993+10:002016-06-01T19:40:39.993+10:00Your cat is so cute!Your cat is so cute!Nightshade Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14223099472843071167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5606734429657625929.post-47373303246037365402016-06-01T05:06:07.560+10:002016-06-01T05:06:07.560+10:00I'm always pulling myself down with, as you ca...I'm always pulling myself down with, as you call, negative mantras. It's just second nature to me now.<br /><br />I can relate to hoarding food. I hoard cuppa soups and sweets.<br /><br />Beautiful photo of Misty xoxoxoxoAngharad https://www.blogger.com/profile/03276065419684298280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5606734429657625929.post-34073897323538995082016-06-01T03:10:20.201+10:002016-06-01T03:10:20.201+10:00As far as I've gotten in recovery, I still hav...As far as I've gotten in recovery, I still have the mantra repeating in my head on really bad days ("stupidfatuglyuselessweakworthless" repeat ad nauseam). Even on the good days, it's hard to forget it when someone who should have supported me drilled all of those things into my head on a daily basis when I was younger (::coughMUMcoughcough::). The mantra never made me feel better though. And it was the only thing going through my head during the suicide attempts. <br /><br />I love those nature valley bars, but I feel like they break my teeth. I usually pound them into crumbs while they're still in the wrapper and them dump it into milk or yogurt. <br /><br />Glad Misty is feeling better. <3<br />Michhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12456803425068822920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5606734429657625929.post-1250007646304849252016-06-01T01:21:29.453+10:002016-06-01T01:21:29.453+10:00I did but I don't think it's good. If some...I did but I don't think it's good. If something that fulfilled the mantra happened it's like, I knew it. If something good happened I thought it was a freak accident. I don't think it's a good thing to do by any means. Now, post ed, I say, if it doesn't happen, try again. I try to be realistic with myself and say, well, you aren't as prepared this time, you did your best so look for other ways, etc. Imagine you said what you say to yourself to a person out loud. It's bound to have negative effects. You cant give yourself poison and expect it to heal you know? Also, yes to nature Valley bars. Love them with coffee. :) <3 Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14696430167877128240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5606734429657625929.post-74771919890362857642016-06-01T01:14:40.771+10:002016-06-01T01:14:40.771+10:00I go through phases of food hoarding too. It was ...I go through phases of food hoarding too. It was really bad when I was still living with my parents. O_o<br /><br />I love that book!! I find Portia de Rossi super inspiring.<br /><br />I don't necessarily have any negative mantras, but my tendency is to sell myself short and to always shoot for below the bar. My parents were always so supportive of my education or career opportunities and that has always bothered me. I don't believe them. I actually get a bit angry over it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00957669670882585052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5606734429657625929.post-55264607761497924162016-06-01T00:15:19.857+10:002016-06-01T00:15:19.857+10:00I know exactly what you mean about the negative ma...I know exactly what you mean about the negative mantra. I don't know why, but for some reason, every time I want something, or something is going really well, I try to turn to those negative thoughts, that I won't get what I want, or the good times won't stay. That way when the good stuff stops/never starts, I can say, "Hey, I knew it wasn't going to happen." But I wonder how much of that negative mantra had to do with what went wrong...<br />Those granola bars are the bomb.. I could eat them for days. The peanut butter ones are my particular favorite! Just looking at your stash is making me salivate...Charliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12367029524759136619noreply@blogger.com